Friend or Faux

It's a funny thing when you stop drinking etc... it can't help but change things.

Obviously it goes without saying the positives are great, no hangovers, no pointless withdrawals of cash on a Friday, Saturday...Tuesday night. A massive sense of calm and clarity when dealing with certain situations, whether that be that you've been ghosted by the man you were convinced you were gonna marry (after date 2)... or you've lost a client at work or you're friend is being a bit of a dick about something... I swear that the way I deal with things has changed for the better. (in no way perfect just better for myself and my mental health)

BUT, of course removing those wonderful boozy adventurous nights also removes certain people from your life in some ways. My friendships that I consider more my family have remained exactly the same, It doesn't matter to them whether I'm chatting shit with them at 6am or at 6pm stone cold sober...that type of blood* is thicker than wine.

HOWEVER, removing booze, means removing certain nights out, and that in turn removes certain people, you don't even get a chance to say goodbye, because before you know it, you haven't been to that bar/venue in weeks or months, and they weren't the type of mate you were gonna call when you get up at 8am for a chat about what they had for dinner last night or the date they went on.. in-fact you realise, you don't even know what those people liked to eat, or if they had a date lined up, you don't actually really know anything real about them at all... you know that they are fabulous and fun, and that they are great at necking shots at a bar with, or finding an afterparty...and this doesn't in anyway mean that they aren't brilliant amazing people, it just turns out that when you don't party quite as hard anymore, they aren't necessarily 'Your everyday people'.

Don't confuse this with negativity towards these people, these people if I see them I'd still run and give them a huge hug but there's a certain mourning of your old life when you cut certain things out and it gives you a very clear view on the people you need in your life on the regs, and those that you maybe don't. It might be that the people you want in your life aren't quite so interested in having you in your life but it's all positive. I would compare changing up your life this way as a massive spring clean, but not a clean out, just a big organisation of where to put things.

I now find I don't spread myself quite as thin with everyone...